Reflecting on pride…
examine the difference between “the source of pride” and “the need for pride”
2 related but quite different feelings that satisfy different needs?
do they arise from different places from within?
we can’t choose our feelings but we can work on breaking the automatic linkage between feelings and action through mindful effort
we can learn to notice the onset of feelings and disengage from the routine. robotic, instinctive follow-on action
we can learn to simply notice the arrival of the feeling and wait for our centered, calm state to re-establish itself and then decide on how to respond with our intentional mind
how can we learn to let the feelings run their course?
How does that compare to a strategy of “controlling” or “preventing emotions”?
How might that skill benefit us as professional consultants?
Victor Frankl has important, timeless things to say on this, as does the Buddha, to name just a couple sages 🙂